I swear, I learn everything the hard way...EVERYTHING! It has its ups and downs learning things the hard way, but that doesn't mean I don't wish somewhere someone would let me read the book of my life and allow me to change a few of them. However, there are some of them I look back and say had I done that I wouldn't be here. Like, if I had gotten my degree in Education to begin with and wasn't taking grad classes for it now, I wouldn't have worked at Bahama Breeze in Birmingham and wouldn't have met my husband. If I hadn't moved strait to Norfolk after we married and my husband deployed and I had gone to Knoxville and completed grad school with my sister...then I wouldn't have met a lot of great people. But I would already have my graduate degree and wouldn't be putting it off yet again for another semester for the new baby and would already be teaching.
Those are just the tip of the ice burg. There are so many others, some that were life altering decisions and not always for the good, some that were minuet that may have had little to no outcome on my life what so ever. Some would have spared people (or myself for that matter) pain, but then again who is to say that it would have stayed that way forever?
My brother just made a HUGE decision. One that I hope he made the right one. He had an offer to play football in college, but decided to pass! How many people get that? I wish I could have just said DO IT! DO IT NOW! Listen to me! DO IT! Then again, maybe I would have been wrong and he is right. I guess only time will tell.
Going through this decision processes (and some of my own not so good decisions lately) has me thinking about how to tell/help my children make decisions. How to steer them in the right direction to make them be the people they should be. I also wish I could read their life manuals so I can spare them some pain. Don't you wish you could do that? Even something as simple as don't befriend that person, they will not be good for you! Or don't go to that party something bad will happen. I just wish I could keep them from any and all pain. I know it makes us who we are but there was definitely pain, or things I did in my life that would have been better had they been avoided.
I guess I just have to sit back and enjoy the ride. Share my mistakes and hope they don't make the same ones. That their mistakes don't alter their life for the worse,or that mistakes I have made don't negatively effect them either. That in the end they turn out just as perfect as I already know they are...I guess only time will tell, but wouldn't it be nice if everything in life didn't have to be learned the hard way?
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