I WIN I WIN I ACTUALLY WIN!

Not that in my marriage I never win, but it does always seem to be more of a compromise then an out and out win, well and this probably is more of a compromise as well but still I am calling it a WIN!

It is official! We WILL NOT I repeat WILL NOT be finding out the sex of baby "b" till s/he is born! I am excited and terrified at the same time. I think it is only natural for the unknown to be a little scary. I kind of wished we hadn't found out with Kaje, but honestly I didn't think about not finding out. I just figured everyone did these days so it was what you did. Then come to learn a LOT of people do not! Yes it is nice to plan and all that good stuff. But with our 1st I wanted all of the big things to be gender neutral because we new we wanted another child. So really all you can't get a clothes, and lets face it that is pretty easy to go and get! Then 1st months they live in sleep and plays and little draw string gowns, so really much of that is the same for a boy or a girl.

I am very excited to be waiting! My hubby protested for quite sometime. We have been telling people we were not finding out for a while, but the agreement was we would find out and not share the news. I wasn't super thrilled with that because it was me that wanted to be surprised. Finally yesterday I had the best argument and point in the world! And it worked!

Some good friends of ours did not find out the sex with their 1st, but then did with their second. When I was visiting them on New years day Jen was so excited for us! One of the 1st things she said to me when I came in was that she didn't know we were not going to find out that the sex and how happy she was that we were doing that! She and her husband both talked about how amazing it was to learn in just that moment what you were having. How amazing it was to have the doctor hold up your little one and say "Congratulations you have a SON!". Even Jen's husband said it was great. She talked about how with the 2nd they went ahead and found out. Everyone had told them that whether you learn the day you have the baby or when you have your ultrasound it is still exciting to find out. Not that they were not excited to find out that they were having another boy, but they both said it wasn't the same. It is much more exciting to find out in the moment she said. And if they have another, they will again not learn the sex of the baby.

I think for my husband having another husband say how awesome it was to not know was the key. he still really wants to know. I know then next 6 1/2 months will be very difficult. Even more so after we have our BIG ultrasound and we know that the Dr's office will know what the baby is, but I know it will be worth the wait. I know we will be so happy to have had that surprise and that experience. Although I am pretty sure it is a boy and will be shocked if it is a girl. As long as s/he is healthy I really don't care. I would love a little girl to dress up (although it will break the bank I am sure) but at the same time I would live for Kaje to have a little brother...I am torn on that. But that is a different blog!

So! We will get to experience one of the few surprises in life! We will learn the sex of our baby "B" the day S/He arrives! HURRY UP JULY!!!